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Quieting the Inner Critic


It’s Monday.


I’m feeling a bit vulnerable so I want to talk about gremlins.


And no, I’m not talking about the 80’s movie.


Your gremlin is your inner critic or fear you are not enough. Jen Pastillof calls it your Inner Asshole (IA).


I've been thinking a LOT about mine lately...how it shows up in my life, how it has held me back, and what it's constantly telling me.


My gremlin likes to tell me to settle, tolerate, and stay quiet.


For as long as I can remember, my IA has discouraged me from asking "stupid" questions and going after things I want both professionally and personally.


It has encouraged me to stay in relationships I'm not happy in while it whispers, "But he's so much nicer than the other idiots you've dated - and it's certainly not going to get any better than him".


It has pressured me to take jobs I'm not excited about as it urges, "You're barely qualified for this job, let alone anything else out there. Are you really going to let this pass you by? The pay is good and it's better than anything else you're interviewing for".


And It told me NOT to start my coaching business.


"You have NO idea what you're doing," it laughed. "You? A coach? You actually think your own life is good enough to help people with theirs??"


As uncomfortable as it is, I’ve started really listening to my gremlin. But in a different way than ever before.


I’m listening for when it’s triggered, what it’s afraid of, and where it’s coming from.


Because learning how to identify it is helping me silence it.


And that’s helping me in every aspect of your life.


If you have a gremlin you want to identify and silence, let’s chat.


Jenny@jennywardcoaching.com

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